Get yours Free! 7 Steps to Ensure your kids THRIVE after Divorce

How to Improve your Resilience

Last week my twin girls had their 13th birthday - time flies doesn't it?   And I couldn't help but remember how I felt when I found out I was expecting them.

When we were told we were expecting twins, my world massively and suddenly flipped completely upside down - very, very similar to the way life feels right now. 

I was so concerned about the health of my babies - could I carry two healthy babies??  I mean, I had never even had one baby yet.

How would I continue to work while pregnant with twins, cause I'd probably have to take an early leave because of either my health of the twins' health. 

Two kids at once??  What??  Seriously.  What a feeling of overwhelm and fear and more scary thoughts. 

So, what's a girl to do? 

How'd I go from despair to laughter?  Click on this video to watch the rest the rest on video - f you prefer that to reading :)  

So, what's a girl to do? 

Dig Deep.  I was going to carry this twin pregnancy. 

I gave myself time to freak out and get my feelings out - I think I walked around like a zombie for days before surrendering into the idea of being pregnant with twins and really letting my feelings run their course. 

My new favourite mantra became: this will all work out.  Some days I believed it more than others.  

Deep down in my body, I really felt my resolve to get through this pregnancy and roll with whatever came up and needed to be handled. 

And so I did.  

And I did have to leave work early - and it wasn't the end of the world. 

And there were health concerns throughout the pregnancy - and it wasn't the end of the world. 

And learning how to be a mom to two babies at once was extremely overwhelming a lot of the first 6 months of their life but it wasn't the end of the world.

Looking back on that time and how the next 13 years have unfolded gives me immense strength and confidence that I can get through anything I face now and anything I face in the future.

In your own life, I know you've got stories like this in your past, where you were faced with something that flipped your life upside down, and you had to dig deeper than you thought was possible.  

Even your own marriage ending, if you're far enough out from it to see the whole thing with a few years of perspective. 

Use  your own stories or use mine to inspire you and create confidence in your ability to make the best of any situation. 

Because I know you can make the best of anything.  We can all do really hard things. 

Just one step at a time.  One solution at a time.  We will get to the other side of this. 

Wishing you and your family all the best, 

Lisa xo

PS. Click here to see my latest youtube video!

 

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