This was such a terrifying question to me initially because I didn't feel that I could ever explain the situation well enough to really have the kids understand. Keep in mind my kids were 6yrs and 3yrs old when their dad and I separated.
I spent a ton of time, as my marriage was ending and during the first year or more after we moved apart, being paralyzed by this immensely terrifying fear and doom, where I thought that by separating, our kids were now officially damaged beyond repair and essentially ruined BUT at the same time wishing and hoping and praying that they would completely and always be happy through it all. Like the slightest tear was a sign of my complete failure as a mother and needed to be wiped away and replaced with a smile as quickly as possible.
My marriage ending was my cross to bear for eternity. I was a shitty mom because my kids were grieving the family unit they’d known since birth. My failure in a marriage had caused them...
I LOVE to read! Books are what I turn to first, when I need to learn anything or just to escape into another world. I read to relax, I read to learn, I read to go on an adventure, and lots more! So, as you can imagine, I read a lot as I went through my separation. And figured if there's any other book lovers out there, then perhaps you might enjoy this list!
So, here they are, in random order, books I lived and died by when I was first Separated and in the midst of chaos, figuring out what my next steps were going to be – and figuring out WHO WAS I AS A SINGLE PERSON ANYWAYS??
1: Mom’s House, Dad’s House: Making Two Homes for Your Child by Isolina Ricci.
Our mediator gave my ex and I a copy of this book to read while we were going through separation mediation. I found it fantastic at outlining and suggesting compassionate ways to run the basic day to day logistics of a two house family. It was also the first time I got a more...
I’ve been on vacation for the past few weeks, and as I sit in my parent’s kitchen in Charlottetown, Prince Edward Island, I have been trying to make some sense of how it’s been 20 years since I graduated high school.
20 years is more years than it takes to be a legal adult for god sakes! At least in Canada :) And that’s just my life SINCE I’ve graduated high school – I lived plenty before then too!
But I don't feel "old".
I think I’ve been trying to wrangle my literal age with the fact that it feels like just yesterday that I was heading off to university and moving out of my parents’ house. And boy oh boy, did I ever think I knew everything! Everything was possible, with some hard work and determination. That sort-of thing.
Thankfully, most days, I feel as young as ever and have been blessed with good health - so far so good as they say! I think it also worries me that this life passes by so quickly...