We all have times in our life when things aren't going our way, especially in those early days of our marriage ending.
It sucks. And this is usually when our negative self-talk turns up the volume in our head big time! Which leads to confidence at an all time low,
So, what can we do? How do we climb back out of the rabbit hole?
Good news is - we are in control of our thoughts - we can let them run rampant or talk back to them :)
Check out this latest video for the simple process that will get you moving out of the rabbit hole of shitty thoughts, and sorry in advance for all the crunching in the background!!
You are stronger than you think.
You have gotten through everything you've ever faced.
I have no doubt, you'll get through this too!
Wishing you all the best,
Valentine's Day doesn't have to be so depressing, if you're marriage has recently ended or you're still moving through all the complicated feelings a year or more out, this post is for you!
Instead of dwelling in what you don't have on Valentine's Day, let's focus on what you do have this Feb. 14th.
I'd like to re-frame Valentine's Day as an occasion to celebrate the people you love (not just romantically love) as well as loving on yourself! Who knows, you might even find it more enjoyable than any past Valentine's festivities to date! :)
No more snacking on piles of chocolates while watching a rom-com movie and crying the whole way through! You deserve better, and besides, your single status wont last forever, there is someone out there looking for you right now - you just haven't crossed paths yet. You know it.
Here's 5 simple ways to focus on the love you do have in your life:
Was your response a resounding: YEEEESSSS!!
If not, read on :)
What does that voice in your head tell you day in and day out?
If you're wondering if you'll ever feel happy or fulfilled in your life after Divorce, I'm here to tell you - it's completely possible!
You can be happier than you've ever been in your life after Divorce :)
You don't have to tuck a piece of your heart away and be bitter for the rest of your life. You aren't 'less than' now that you're marriage has ended.
This is the perfect time to rebuild your life in the way YOU want.
And the thoughts you tell yourself in your head have a HUGE impact on what you think is possible for yourself.
So, here are some simple phrases to tell yourself when you catch your mind running through the mud too often:
I Deserve to be Happy
I fully and completely love and accept myself - I felt like a total fraud saying this to myself for months! So keep...
This is so important because a lot of times parents know what they value and who they value BUT when they look at their current life and what they spend a lot of their time doing, their activities don't reflect their values as much as they thought they would!
If this is you - how do you get your values and your daily life to jive a little better?
Check out my latest YouTube video on this topic!
And keep in mind - I go back to reflect on this values and weekly activities, atleast once a year! It's a constant work in progress :)
Cause it's really easy to let time wasters or 'shoulds' sneak into your life!
At the end of the day, I wish you a life you are satisfied with :)
You can choose to lay on your back and float through life or walk through your life a little more consciously as far as what gets your time and what doesn't!
Wishing you all the best,
Let's face it - having your marriage end is pretty friggin' hard on your confidence!!
Feeling like a failure and ashamed that your marriage has ended, is the complete opposite of feeling Confident.
So, how do you rebuild your confidence when you're at an all time low?
I'm literally bursting to help! :) Click on the video below, for three ways you can rebuild your confidence, and get back on track as quickly as possible!
You might not believe it now but your confidence will improve after your divorce! You are tougher and more resilient than you think - same goes for your kids! :)
Wishing you all the best!
There is a definite grieving process to having your marriage end. Whether you were the one who finally ended it or not.
The hopes you had for a family unit that was more traditional and less complicated.
The hopes you had for your marriage and the vows you made.
Needless to say, this can be a looong process.
So be easy with yourself. Be patient with yourself.
With time and healing, your life will turn around.
You will smile again and enjoy life again.
It is going to take some time though.
So, be patient with yourself.
And always remember - it is just a season. So, keep the hope and faith, in knowing you aren't in a permanent slump.
My latest video is up, and in it I talk about ways to manage your grief, so you don't get overwhelmed or frustrated through the process of grieving..there's no too slow or deadline to be 'over grieving' by!
You will find a new...
Dealing with a difficult ex can be incredibly stressful and influence the quality of your life for years.
Let's take your power back!
Click the link below to watch my latest video:
When dealing with a difficult person, it is extremely important to have firm boundaries on how frequently you engage with them. You do not want them to have access to you at all times of the days and weeks - you'll be trading your peace of mind for constant stress and emotional turmoil.
That's no way to live in the long run.
You deserve a better quality of life than that! And you are a better parent when you aren't constantly under stress and bracing yourself for the next problem.
Click on the link below to watch my latest video, where I outline a few strategies on how to minimize the negative impact your high conflict ex will have on your life.
Ugghhhh....transitioning between two homes SUCKS terribly in the beginning!! Terrible. Heart wrenching. The worst.
I don't even have the words for it really.
It absolutely gets better.
And it can be managed a lot easier with a few important tweaks to what you are already doing.
Click here to watch my video now!
Hopefully it helps you stick handle the transitions so that your family can find their way to peace faster :)
Here's the link again.
Loneliness completely sucks. It can lead to feeling hopeless, which makes you despair that life isn't going to change.
This isn't true. Life will change. There is always hope.
Going through a Divorce is not the end of the world - it can absolutely lead to a better life if you believe it will :)
Check out my video below for some simple things you can do today, that will start easing your feelings of loneliness. And REMEMBER: YOU are NOT alone.
Wishing you all the best co-parents!
Life Coach - www.lisanicol.ca
This is one of the most frequently asked questions from parents in our community - it's SUCH an IMPORTANT conversation you need to have with your kids.
This is definitely one of the hardest conversations you'll ever have.
It's heart wrenching, it's terrifying.
You don't want to disappoint your kids. It's all true.
And it's totally human nature to want to avoid this kind of conversation. Any kind of hard, shitty conversations really.
BUT please don't avoid it.
Don't brush over it with a rose coloured brush either.
Sit in your discomfort and talk to your kids about Divorce.
I know that your love for your kids is WAY BIGGER than your discomfort and fear about your marriage ending.
You can do hard things. Your kids are looking to you to guide them through this.
You can do it.
Ok, Deep Breath.
Now, that we are clear that you will have this conversation with your kids. Here are some simple...