Last week my twin girls had their 13th birthday - time flies doesn't it? And I couldn't help but remember how I felt when I found out I was expecting them.
When we were told we were expecting twins, my world massively and suddenly flipped completely upside down - very, very similar to the way life feels right now.
I was so concerned about the health of my babies - could I carry two healthy babies?? I mean, I had never even had one baby yet.
How would I continue to work while pregnant with twins, cause I'd probably have to take an early leave because of either my health of the twins' health.
Two kids at once?? What?? Seriously. What a feeling of overwhelm and fear and more scary thoughts.
So, what's a girl to do?
How'd I go from despair to laughter? Click on this video to watch the rest the rest on video - f you prefer that to reading :)
So, what's a girl to do?
Dig Deep. I was going to carry...
Was your response a resounding: YEEEESSSS!!
If not, read on :)
What does that voice in your head tell you day in and day out?
If you're wondering if you'll ever feel happy or fulfilled in your life after Divorce, I'm here to tell you - it's completely possible!
You can be happier than you've ever been in your life after Divorce :)
You don't have to tuck a piece of your heart away and be bitter for the rest of your life. You aren't 'less than' now that you're marriage has ended.
This is the perfect time to rebuild your life in the way YOU want.
And the thoughts you tell yourself in your head have a HUGE impact on what you think is possible for yourself.
So, here are some simple phrases to tell yourself when you catch your mind running through the mud too often:
I Deserve to be Happy
I fully and completely love and accept myself - I felt like a total fraud saying this to myself for months! So keep...
This is so important because a lot of times parents know what they value and who they value BUT when they look at their current life and what they spend a lot of their time doing, their activities don't reflect their values as much as they thought they would!
If this is you - how do you get your values and your daily life to jive a little better?
Check out my latest YouTube video on this topic!
And keep in mind - I go back to reflect on this values and weekly activities, atleast once a year! It's a constant work in progress :)
Cause it's really easy to let time wasters or 'shoulds' sneak into your life!
At the end of the day, I wish you a life you are satisfied with :)
You can choose to lay on your back and float through life or walk through your life a little more consciously as far as what gets your time and what doesn't!
Wishing you all the best,
Let's face it - having your marriage end is pretty friggin' hard on your confidence!!
Feeling like a failure and ashamed that your marriage has ended, is the complete opposite of feeling Confident.
So, how do you rebuild your confidence when you're at an all time low?
I'm literally bursting to help! :) Click on the video below, for three ways you can rebuild your confidence, and get back on track as quickly as possible!
You might not believe it now but your confidence will improve after your divorce! You are tougher and more resilient than you think - same goes for your kids! :)
Wishing you all the best!
I was on a retreat a month ago that changed my life forever.
It was called ‘Seduction of Spirit’ and is put on by the Chopra Center, which was founded by Deepak Chopra.
I’ve been a HUGE fan of Deepak Chopra for over 20 years – I still vividly remember the first book I ever read of his, it was called How to Know God, and while it blew my mind at the time, it also rung so deeply true to me. Like when your soul knows it to be true, it resonates.
And ever since, I’ve kept reading his books when they interest me and I’ve seen him speak a few times when he’s come to Ottawa.
I have a Civil Engineering degree, so I’ve got a naturally scientific mind and I’ve always loved the way he blends science with spirit & mind/body concepts.
ANYWAYS, this retreat was primarily a meditation retreat – with lots of doses of yoga and talks with different mind/body teachers and researchers. It was also in Sunny...
How do you intend to live the rest of your life after Separation/Divorce'?
Write it down. In detail. Let's get real here.
I imagine your response is similar to what mine was, I just want to be happy, I want to be a good parent, and have good relationships with the people I love - especially my kids. I want my relationship with my ex to have a flow and ease to it. All great stuff!
Now close your eyes and in your mind's eye - really see it happening, imagine your life the way you want it to be, as if it's happening right now. Who would be in your life? How would you act towards others?
How would it feel?
Please, really do the visualization. It's so powerful.
It only needs to be for 5 mins or so! You know you're onto something when you can feel your body physically responding to the visualization - like happy tingling and just an overall positive feeling building in your body.
Continue on with the visualization daily or weekly or...
Wherever you are in your life – newly separated/divorced, dating, focusing on yourself & your kids & letting the dust settle a bit, into a new serious relationship, etc – stress finds a way to creep into your life, for long periods or very short periods. Frankly, some of life's low points have wider ruts than we'd like. Wherever you are today – reducing stress will help move you ahead :) And it'll serve you well for the rest of your long life.
I’ve been thinking a lot lately about how to keep my mind optimistic and creative and fresh, to stay curious, even when things are very uncertain. For some reason, it feels like a pivot point for me these days, where I am starting some small new habits that will carry me through the next few decades and further – I hope! For the past while, I’ve just been running myself ragged and my mind and body are starting to feel the drain.
I am naturally optimistic at my core,...